Amerika

Most of our society seems to have PTSD and Stockholm Syndrome because egalitarian systems create a Crowd to rule us instead of a King, and since we have social mobility, we need to prove ourselves to that Crowd in order to rise.

Thus we become slaves, begging on our knees for social approval so we can have careers and normal lives. Social mobility and equality seem like freedom, but really they are a lack of anchors on which we can build anything, and an inertia for society to become anchorless and rudderless.

Since we are all using each other to get ahead, no one can trust love in this time, which produces psychological alienation because we have no place, nowhere, not even in the hearts of others:

Second, if you feel the person or people who are most important to you—these are usually parents when we’re kids and intimate partners when we’re adults, but there could be others like teachers or coaches—if you feel that person doesn’t really want you, appreciate you, care about you, love you, if you feel rejected by that person, most people will respond in exactly the same way.

A cluster of ten things start to happen. We get anxious, insecure. We have anger problems. Our self-esteem is impaired. Children can have issues of cognitive distortions, in which they start to think about themselves in distorted ways.

Those with rejection histories showed more activity in areas linked to emotion and memory, suggesting they were re-experiencing past rejection. Participants who felt loved showed more activation in regions tied to rational thinking, possibly reframing the experience.

This gets worse when your background culture, which could give you a context and relevance, is removed by diversity. In fact diversity is the final stage of peeling the onion, first removing your kings, then your hierarchy, then your culture, and finally, your identity and genetics.

If you wonder why modernity feels so terrible, it is because you are empowered, but that power comes at the cost of the social framework and culture that you need, so in the end you are lonely and alienated in a world without structure or purpose.

Tags: love, ptsd, rejection, stockholm syndrome