Infantilizer

We are fond of thinking of Natural Selection as a time long, long ago on a planet far, far away. We will acknowledge it as our origin, and then change the topic.

The reason for this is that Darwinism is a binary state. Either it existed then only, or it exists now and much as then, which crashes directly into our own mortality and sense of self insufficiency at the same time. We could become prey and our failure would be visible to the world.

That being said, it’s clear that natural selection exists around us still. It does not magically select the best, only those who breed the most abundantly in whatever environment is offered. If you created a society that rewarded obesity, you would create a tribe of ueber-lards.

Despite all of the finery we put on, justifications we type out on paper, and social finesse we apply to our interactions, we are still basically at war with one another. This is a war for basic supremacy: am I better than this other guy?

This clambering for supremacy takes two forms: first, being better at stuff than other people; second, pushing those other people down “by any means necessary” so you can take their place. It is in that latter arena where society, by suspending the meritocracy of nature, in fact makes us meaner.

If you wonder why wherever you go, you see people misleading, belittling and sabotaging one another, now you know why. It is the animal within attempting to reach supremacy over the other, in an impulse to breed and conquer that is as ingrained in us as whatever makes dogs chase their own tails.

The truest triumph comes from using social pressures to destroy others. The primary method of this is infantilization, which takes many forms but is essentially a process of teaching others learned helplesness, shattering their self-esteem, and then leading them toward repetitive tasks. In other words, making them babies again, dependent on your leadership and friendship just to survive.

Infantilizers come in all form. For some unlucky people, it’s the parents. They never want their kids to truly be able to assess their own directions in life, so they beat on the self-confidence of their own children. Abusive bosses and sadistic significant others do the same thing.

Some pretend to be friends and are later revealed as “frenemies,” that modern portmanteau that reflects how unstable this time is. How can it not be unstable? Once you make everyone equal, all that is left to do is rise — or be dragged down under the weight of many equals.

In politics, the infantilizers delight in putting you on welfare programs, “educating” you as to why certain words or ideas are wrong, or simply forcing you to submit to so many crazy and illogical rules, conventions and customs that you break down.

All of politics can be viewed as a tool of individuals to infantalize others. It’s clear from the disconnect between beliefs and action that most people do not intend to live as they preach we should all live. They are inventing mental viruses, or memes, to infantilize the rest of us.

This infantalization occurs through two methods. First, they fill our heads with paradoxical, illogical and unrealistic notions about what is “right” and “true” and “moral.” Then they trump all of those with some Superman-meets-Jesus plan for ultimate self-sacrifice and moral good intentions toward others. This makes the rest of us look stupid, selfish and clueless. That is what the infantilizer wanted: to rise above socially by pushing everyone else downward.

Significant evidence has accumulated that individuals use politics as a kind of marketing, like flowers use nectar and stores use free samples. When we pontificate on a political opinion, we are offering up pleasant visions that make other people feel warm and happy, so they become addicted to us.

The result is that our society tosses around untold reams of paper and hours of argument, but the topic itself is vapor. It’s not even meant to be honest or true at all. This is why conservatives don’t favor politics as it is, but the idea of time-tested solutions to real-world problems.

But in the meantime the deception continues. Like hypnotized zombies we follow the pleasant voices and ignore the consequences of doing what they tell us to do. We have spent so many years fighting against the evils out there, but will we ever conquer the narcissist within?

22 Comments

  1. Jason says:

    Ugh, my aunt and other family members would always call me a “dreamer” for not believing in working 9-5. I said I was smarter and more capable than just being a truck driver or other blue-collar labour. They told me “Get in a union” and to “be real” about a career and job, this article reminds me of why I had absolutely 0 faith in myself until my mid 20s. Now I don’t even talk to any of my family as I feel like they not only abandoned me, but actually abused me. Seriously, now that I’m in my mid 30s, I see how important it is for parents to ENCOURAGE and NURTURE their children, rather than see them like my parents did, a burden.

    1. A. Realist says:

      By making everyone equal, we have made each person into a tyrant. Tyrants cannot stand it when they are not obeyed and they do not care of the consequences to those they command. I think I have noticed this most clearly in the workplace. Even the lowliest secretary, if given power, becomes a queen in her own mind.

    2. The Crow says:

      That’s a complete counterpoint to my own experience, Jason, and were I someone else, I would heap scorn upon you, for your views.
      But I am not, and so I won’t.
      I received no encouragement, or nurture, whatsoever, as a child. To the point of being often reminded that I was an ‘accident’ that should never have happened, and that I was ruining my parents’ lives.
      It was unpleasant, and damaging, for sure, but it is very clear to me, now, that I was, because of this, forced to adapt and overcome, becoming, in the process, someone I hold in high esteem today.
      You’re fortunate, Jason, to have not been coddled and softened by an indulgent family. You may not see it, today, but I imagine you will come to see it, in the future.
      If there is a future (:>

      “Qui audet adipiscitur”.
      SAS motto: Who dares, wins!

      1. Jason says:

        Oh yes, I do see it like that now, but it left a lasting impression on me that kept me passive and weak for so long. I agree that it may have forced me to grab my wedding tackle and become the force I am today.

        I will not coddle my offspring, but I will encourage them and show that I am proud of their accomplishments.

        1. crow says:

          Good stuff.
          The road to success isn’t paved with success.
          But it’s good to discover that it does, in fact, lie somewhere up ahead.

      2. A. Realist says:

        When society no longer sees child birth and rearing as a sacred duty, the children become property of the parents, and they are used only to make the parents look good to their peer group. As a result the kids matter to the parents only when they are on display.

        All adversity is good but if you don’t screw up your kids they get a lot farther in life and fewer of them become criminals or liberals. Most of our criminals, porn stars, drug users and Democrats come from broken homes.

        1. Jason says:

          Yes, I am really fucked up.

          I am, however, doing my best to get to a place where my heart feels like things are right. Where I am at in life right now is pure chaos.

  2. “It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives, nor the one that breeds the most that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change.” – Charles Darwin (Adapted)

    1. The Crow says:

      There goes Charles, again, needlessly siding with me.
      I don’t actually need his agreement, but I suppose it is nice.
      Adaptability is my stock-in-trade. And, lo, I still ain’t dead!
      Thanks Charles.

  3. The Crow says:

    “This clambering for supremacy takes two forms: first, being better at stuff than other people; second, pushing those other people down “by any means necessary” so you can take their place.”

    How very odd I am.
    I’ve never aimed for supremacy over others, with the single exception of becoming a champion high-jumper, at school. My goal, if any, was only to be ‘left alone’. If I wasn’t, I could become rather violent.
    As for people being ‘better at stuff than others”, I find that nobody really cares much about that: only about persuading others that they are better at stuff, without the actual being better.
    There was a time, I seem to recall, when this was true, but it hasn’t been so for quite some time.

    1. A. Realist says:

      Your old-fashioned thinking is inefficient. The peanut butter that makes the most profit is not the one that is better, but the one that is the best at being cheap with the label that makes it seem better. This is modern “wisdom.” It is less efficient and more expensive, not to mention more risky, to be actually better at something. If you can instead find a fancy label, you win at the game of modern life.

      1. crow says:

        Old-fashioned thinking suits me fine.
        I am old-fashioned.
        The young chant: “We want change!”
        Observe the interesting results.

        1. A. Realist says:

          Change for change’s sake is as dumb as not changing for not changing’s sake. I would guess that if change does not have a goal, and some kind of science behind how the results will turn out well or not, it’s just random behavior that made the animals in question feel good about themselves.

          1. crow says:

            Your guess is likely as good as mine.
            Here we are, all guessing WTF is going on.
            Because it is incomprehensible.
            We have our various hypotheses.
            It’s not an exact science.

  4. EvilBuzzard says:

    Infants are easier to control. Plus, you have to limit their vision. What the people can’t see, they can’t believe in. That is why linguistic control is so vital to the dehumanizing, statist project.

    1. A. Realist says:

      Control makes us each feel powerful. Equality is not powerful. The urge to push ourselves above the rest is very strong.

      1. crow says:

        I prefer to push myself away from “the rest”.

        1. A. Realist says:

          That’s second best to pushing them into “Escape from New York” and throwing away the key.

          1. crow says:

            Only if you’re not a crow.

  5. This entire society is addicted to control. Control who you tolerate, control what you eat, what you smoke, the list goes on. If we are as free as we seem to think we are why do we need so much control?

  6. [...] (public shaming, guilt or socioeconomic power) or indirectly (social power, covert implication, infantilization). Control is the byproduct of having no hierarchy. Now instead of having a few leaders, we have a [...]

  7. […] (public shaming, guilt or socioeconomic power) or indirectly (social power, covert implication, infantilization). Control is the byproduct of having no hierarchy. Now instead of having a few leaders, we have a […]

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